Have you ever thought about getting a divorce or having and affair because you are unhappy in your marriage? Maybe you want to leave your partner but are scared of the regret or shame that may come with it. This is a common dilemma in unhealthy or unhappy marriages and it seems that the best thing to do is to make the decision that will result in the best outcome for both you and your partner.
If a partner has an affair and/or gets a divorce, it is likely that they will feel some sense of remorse and regret. This is understandable, as they may have been together for a long period of time and had once loved each other. There may be other important factors involved such as children, shared properties and pressure from your family.
It seems that most partners regret cheating on their husband or wife before deciding to get a divorce. There is usually a lot of guilt that comes out of cheating on a partner and the consequences are usually way worse than separating or divorcing from them before cheating on them if you are not happy in the relationship. Most people who have had an affair in their marriage and later got a divorce say that they regret the affair and regret not getting the divorce sooner.
It is very important to be honest with your partner and have open conversations with them if you have any concerns within your relationship. If your partner is not meeting your needs and wants, making you feeling unhappy in the marriage, or the marriage is no longer working, even after making them aware of it, it is a good idea to let them know how you are feeling and that you want to separate. While you may feel guilty about admitting this to your partner, it will probably hurt them way less and cause them less distress if you tell them this rather than have an affair and then tell them all this later down the track.
Furthermore, it is sometimes possible that a divorce could have been avoided if an affair had not happened. There are scenarios where a partner was unhappy in their marriage and did not properly resolve their issues with their partner. They then went on to have multiple affairs on them as their needs were not being met in their marriage. When their partner found out about the affair, they were devastated which resulted in a messy divorce. Having an affair also risks ruining your relationship with your children and extended family and friends. If the marriage issues were resolved earlier, the marriage may have successfully worked in the long term or the affair could have been avoided.
While divorces commonly have a negative connotation and can sometimes be frowned upon by others, if you are unhappy or questioning the relationship, it is likely that everyone will be better off and happier by getting a divorce. Although you may fear the thought of being judged by others, including your own family and friends, at the end of the day it is more important to do what is best for you and your partner.
It is clear that most people would be better off separating or divorcing rather than having an affair soon after they realise that they are unhappy in their marriage or needs aren’t being met and unable to resolve it. Consequently, if you are having relationship issues in your marriage, it is best to communicate with your partner and try resolve the issues. If they cannot be resolved, consider getting a separation or divorce. While a divorce can be a distressing process, here at Antippa Lawyers, we work hard to ensure we support you and make this process as straightforward and easy as possible for you and your family.